How I stopped worrying and love to live

Once a man who was in pursuit of enlightenment returned to his village with arduous spiritual training from his guru. He began his simple meditative life surviving on natural vegetation in a small hut. One day he noticed holes in his clothes which were caused by the rats and also the rats disturbed in his meditation. Baffled, he consulted the villagers for the solution. The villagers suggested him having cat in his house. So he bought a cat. Cat did his duty well, but it started moaning with hunger which disturbed him. Again villagers suggested having cow for the milk to feed the cat. Now, he spent most of the time in managing the cat and cow which affected his meditative life. Now villagers advised him to get married to take care of everything. So he got married. Then to take care of his wife, he started working to meet the financial needs. After few years, his guru came to his home and surprised to see him in that situation. His Guru asked for the reason and he replied, “All for the clothes”.

The pursuit of pleasure is a chain reaction and leads to all the problems. With contentment one gains unsurpassed happiness, but the boring mind demands some thrill or anxiety. Boring mind watches others in happiness and plans for the high levels of pleasure in the anxious path. Pain is the tail of the pleasure; we know that but we excuse with the statement that life is boring without any thrill or simply declare that life is composed of both pain and pleasure.

We all came to this earth to kill the time. Though the purpose of life is not enjoyment, the essence of life is to enjoy. In the pursuit of pleasure, at the end if we experience pleasure then the passion arises or if we experience pain then hatred arises. As we mature we balance this aspect.

There are three kinds of painfulness:
1. Painfulness of after-effect : Caused when expectation of pleasure goes in vain.
2. Painfulness of agony : Caused by the inability to achieve the pleasure due to any physical ailment (disease).
3. Painfulness of habitual potency : Remembering the past enjoyments which are not available now and whereby the heart burns, leading to pain.

The effect of painfulness is worrying. People, having experienced the painfulness, worry because of the feeling of happening again. Worrying is distraction for any activity. With contentment, happiness will freely flow, but to have contentment, first we need to stop worrying. For any progress this is the base and it is difficult to have this state. Hence the moral is, ‘Stop worrying for the pain which is not yet come’. When the pain comes either experience it or work in advance in an ethical way to avoid/minimize the pain.

There was a blind man selling fruits on the roadside. He offers discount to the customers who answers his question. So he asks this question, “Is the day is beautiful for you? If yes then please describe it”. Most of the people answer that they don’t know and some say yes but unable to describe it. One day a woman evinced a positive reply. She said, “It is a beautiful day with the glorious sun shine in the morning broking my lethargic mind to remind me that I was gifted with another in this lovely earth. The energy of the delicious food made this day purposeful for me to contribute for good things as the gratitude for this lovely planet. Uh… well this road too replenish the beauty. There are some yellow flowers blooming on a tree and some purple ones, too. Uh…it’s just an ordinary day in this city, you know. People rushing back and forth, cars driving, everybody’s got somewhere to go, somewhere to be. Nobody really cares about nothing. It’s like a huge living clock. It never stops. In midst of this a dog sleeps happily without any worry.” The blind man with satisfaction said, “Madam, most of the people were not able to describe because they always worried about something and their mind was occupied in it. They have eyes but still blind. Today my day is beautiful because of you”.

“If the problem has a solution, worrying is pointless, in the end the problem will be solved. If the problem has no solution, there is no reason to worry, because it can’t be solved.”
~ Zen

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